This Is The Hard
On Sundays and Tuesdays, I watch my son while my wife works a 10-hour hospital shift.
These are beautiful and exhausting days.
It's a privilege to have this time to bond, and it's given me new respect for Moms and single parents. The energy required to run my business is nothing compared to caring for a human who is completely dependent on me.
For the first few weeks, things were difficult.
He had trouble taking the bottle and missed being away from his Mama.
I'd try everything to console him. Bounce around, heat up the bottle, walk outside, sing songs—nothing worked. The utter loneliness of being home with a crying baby and no tools wrecked me.
It also wrecked my wife to know how our family's necessity for her to work was impacting him.
Before my parenthood initiation, the main sentiment I heard was:
It's the greatest thing in the world and the hardest thing in the world.
During one of these solo Dad days, as my son was shrieking, and the seconds passing like eternity, it hit me—This Is The Hard.
What other parents said about being difficult—this is it. I'm in it!
There was something relieving about recognizing it. I was bonded to the billions of parents dealing with one hard thing after another.
It was a powerful reminder that in naming something, we get space and are not consumed by it.
After admitting what was happening, things changed.
While I know there are many hard times coming, I'm grateful to say that flavor of hard has shifted.
"The greatest thing and the hardest thing" are true for any meaningful pursuit: training for a race, running a business, or awakening on one's path.
We can't get away from the hard; it comes with the territory.
But we can learn to recognize it when we're in it.
So when you find yourself experiencing:
No clients coming in
Failed attempt at a new offer
Friends not understanding your life choices
Loss of direction and identity
Muscles cramping at mile 20
Remember—This Is The Hard.
Embrace it as what you signed up for, and you will learn how to endure when others quit.
Plus, it will make the "greatest in the world" times that much sweeter.
I'm rooting for you.
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If you're in "The Hard" in some way, know that you're not meant to do it alone.
What would it feel like to have someone in your corner?
Someone who's been through the hard and can be equal parts empathetic witness and inspirational catalyst.
Guiding you through your next evolution.
Helping you work through your fears and doubts.
Getting you out of your own way so you can realize the dreams in your heart.
My coaching is for those wanting to experience the fullness of life. Who know they have something incredible inside them. And just can't seem to get out of their own way.
On Sundays and Tuesdays, I watch my son while my wife works a 10-hour hospital shift.
These are beautiful and exhausting days.
It's a privilege to have this time to bond, and it's given me new respect for Moms and single parents. The energy required to run my business is nothing compared to caring for a human who is completely dependent on me.
For the first few weeks, things were difficult.
He had trouble taking the bottle and missed being away from his Mama.
I'd try everything to console him. Bounce around, heat up the bottle, walk outside, sing songs—nothing worked. The utter loneliness of being home with a crying baby and no tools wrecked me.
It also wrecked my wife to know how our family's necessity for her to work was impacting him.
Before my parenthood initiation, the main sentiment I heard was:
It's the greatest thing in the world and the hardest thing in the world.
During one of these solo Dad days, as my son was shrieking, and the seconds passing like eternity, it hit me—This Is The Hard.
What other parents said about being difficult—this is it. I'm in it!
There was something relieving about recognizing it. I was bonded to the billions of parents dealing with one hard thing after another.
It was a powerful reminder that in naming something, we get space and are not consumed by it.
After admitting what was happening, things changed.
While I know there are many hard times coming, I'm grateful to say that flavor of hard has shifted.
"The greatest thing and the hardest thing" are true for any meaningful pursuit: training for a race, running a business, or awakening on one's path.
We can't get away from the hard; it comes with the territory.
But we can learn to recognize it when we're in it.
So when you find yourself experiencing:
No clients coming in
Failed attempt at a new offer
Friends not understanding your life choices
Loss of direction and identity
Muscles cramping at mile 20
Remember—This Is The Hard.
Embrace it as what you signed up for, and you will learn how to endure when others quit.
Plus, it will make the "greatest in the world" times that much sweeter.
I'm rooting for you.
--
If you're in "The Hard" in some way, know that you're not meant to do it alone.
What would it feel like to have someone in your corner?
Someone who's been through the hard and can be equal parts empathetic witness and inspirational catalyst.
Guiding you through your next evolution.
Helping you work through your fears and doubts.
Getting you out of your own way so you can realize the dreams in your heart.
My coaching is for those wanting to experience the fullness of life. Who know they have something incredible inside them. And just can't seem to get out of their own way.